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katya · 01-19-2012, 11:03 AM

I think part of it was because we had been watching Weeds and I liked the idea of a secret wedding and then later have a real ceremony. It was kind of awkward timing too but we wanted to get it official for practical reasons. It was so funny, we didn't have rings or anything or even take our winter coats off. The magistrate was a sweetheart though.

The Gaffer · 01-20-2012, 10:15 AM

Just the other day I found out that a friend I've known for about 5 years is married to his partner. It was a bit awkward because it turned out that even people he has known for 20+ years didn't know, and they only got married fairly recently.

In fact that may have been the Most Awkward Silence of 2011 for me, when the whole room turned round as one and said "WTF??".

I have a feeling it think that in their case it is to do with the legal position regarding her daughter (i.e. his step-daughter), possibly on account of the biological father being a wanker.

So yeah, all sorts of reasons.

Twas ever thus though eh? Isn't the romantic ideal of marriage a relatively recent convention?

***Rían*** · 01-20-2012, 05:14 PM

Congrats, katya!

inked · 01-20-2012, 07:01 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by The Gaffer

So yeah, all sorts of reasons.

Twas ever thus though eh? Isn't the romantic ideal of marriage a relatively recent convention?

Precisely. The "romantic convention" is a recent historic convention that has been imported anachronistically into all sorts of ideas and places by that ever popular cinema.

Arranged marriages are probably the most common world-wide and historically.

"Falling in love" is a rather recent ideal as a cause for marriage. It was marriage that led to falling in love usually. And, of course, the marriage vows in the Prayer Book reflect that reality rather than our age's.

katya · 01-21-2012, 12:13 AM

My marriage is way more like the old style of marriage. More strategy less infatuation. But lots of love. <3

01-19-2012, 11:03 AM	#381
katya Elven Maiden Join Date: Aug 2002 Posts: 3,309	I think part of it was because we had been watching Weeds and I liked the idea of a secret wedding and then later have a real ceremony. It was kind of awkward timing too but we wanted to get it official for practical reasons. It was so funny, we didn't have rings or anything or even take our winter coats off. The magistrate was a sweetheart though. __________________ ~~eat until you can't anymore, play until you drop, sleep the day away, laugh, cry, yell, just live live live!~~

01-20-2012, 05:14 PM	#383
*Rían* Half-Elven Princess of Rabbit Trails and Harp-Wielding Administrator (beware the Rubber Chicken of Doom!) Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: Not where I want to be ... Posts: 15,254	Congrats, katya! __________________ . I should be doing the laundry, but this is MUCH more fun! Ñá ë?* óú éä ïöü Öñ É Þ ð ß ® ç å ™ æ ♪ ?* "How lovely are Thy dwelling places, O Lord of hosts! ... For a day in Thy courts is better than a thousand outside." (from Psalm 84) * * * God rocks! Entmoot : Veni, vidi, velcro - I came, I saw, I got hooked! Ego numquam pronunciare mendacium, sed ego sum homo indomitus! Run the earth and watch the sky ... Auta i lómë! Aurë entuluva!

01-21-2012, 12:13 AM	#385
katya Elven Maiden Join Date: Aug 2002 Posts: 3,309	My marriage is way more like the old style of marriage. More strategy less infatuation. But lots of love. <3 __________________ ~~eat until you can't anymore, play until you drop, sleep the day away, laugh, cry, yell, just live live live!~~

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01-20-2012, 10:15 AM	#382
The Gaffer Elf Lord Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: In me taters Posts: 3,288	Just the other day I found out that a friend I've known for about 5 years is married to his partner. It was a bit awkward because it turned out that even people he has known for 20+ years didn't know, and they only got married fairly recently. In fact that may have been the Most Awkward Silence of 2011 for me, when the whole room turned round as one and said "WTF??". I have a feeling it think that in their case it is to do with the legal position regarding her daughter (i.e. his step-daughter), possibly on account of the biological father being a wanker. So yeah, all sorts of reasons. Twas ever thus though eh? Isn't the romantic ideal of marriage a relatively recent convention?