07-14-2002, 05:54 AM | #1 |
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is love NECESSARY for a good relationship?
is love NECESSARY for a good relationship?
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07-14-2002, 06:04 AM | #2 |
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I would be the wrong person to ask.
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07-14-2002, 06:39 AM | #3 |
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i used to think that love was necessary but
i'm in the BEST dating situation i've ever experienced and neither I or the lady is in love. everthing is just SMOOTH it ALMOST faery tale like in the way we click there is always so much emotional drama with love. its nice to have a relationship with such compatiablity without the emotional dreggs
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07-14-2002, 10:06 AM | #4 |
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How good do you want it? If no love is involved, the relationship will eventually fizzel out, out of boredom on someone's part. (I think) You gotta watch that love thing tho, It's very sneaky and will creep up on someone before they know it!!
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07-14-2002, 12:02 PM | #5 |
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No, but I think respect is.
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07-14-2002, 01:26 PM | #6 |
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AE, you've been kinda starting a lot of wierd threads lately. Men who cry, all that stuff. Maybe you should give it a rest.
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07-14-2002, 01:52 PM | #8 |
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Just that Afro-Elf as been doing some wierd threads lately. Maybe not dumb, but wierd.
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Now: back on topic. No, I don't think love is a necessary component of a good relationship - but trust, and respect are. And if you have those two, and just happen to be sexually compatible... well, who needs love? (Which is, after all, nothing more than a hormonal reaction anyway.)
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07-14-2002, 04:08 PM | #10 |
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you lost me on the love is just a hormonal reaction. Exactly what do you mean there?
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07-14-2002, 04:11 PM | #11 | |
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07-14-2002, 06:46 PM | #13 |
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Well, not really, I guess I've got my "dense cap" on! Hormones brings thoughts of chemical reactions to my mind. Love seems to be a complex psychological development. I wonder if higher evolved animals don't feel, "love", tho man/ woman love probably is our recent developement. Of course some species are monogomous, do they love???. I agree with you on this thread Olsonm. AE, if you're happy, that's cool.
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07-15-2002, 10:10 AM | #14 |
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Respect & trust neutralize love.
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07-15-2002, 12:39 PM | #15 |
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Neutralize? What do you mean? I'm starting to feel like Mrs. Romantic here!
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07-15-2002, 05:31 PM | #16 |
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Yes.
However, you have an excellent point, in that you can have a relationship where you are not 'in love'. Because there is a difference. Being 'in love' involves mainly hormones and emotions. So it's not likely to create a lasting relationship. Real love (I use it in a christian sense) is a state of will. It involves a decision and a level of commitment to the relationship. Likewise, real love is selfless, while the common 'in love' motif is often selfish and self serving. Indeed... Love (in a christian sense) always involves trust and respect, and a desire to do right by the other party (or parties) involved. And it does have a tendancy to negate 'being in love'. So insofar as that goes I side with you ladies...
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07-15-2002, 08:04 PM | #18 |
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I see. I have a different idea of a good realtionship. I guess he (AE) means a relationship with a member of the opposite sex, (or whatever!), I like a little love to grow in mine. Just trust and respect make for a good friendship. Maybe that's the type of relationship he means? The "love" part does put you on an emotional roller coaster, but sometimes it's just unavoidable!
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07-15-2002, 08:08 PM | #19 |
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I'd like an attachment with someone that didn't include distrust, jealousy, etc. because I had extremely strong feelings for them. That's just scary. I'd like a calm, soothing relationship. One that if, things changed, you don't have an emotional breakdown for 6 months to a year but realize how much they changed your life.
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07-15-2002, 08:14 PM | #20 |
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You're right, strong feelings are scary! It's funny though, feelings seem to come up from some area in my brain that has nothing to do with what I'm thinking. Strong feelings just bubble up and they're there! Scary, scary!
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