Teacup Café XLII - Page 58

Acalewia · 12-13-2016, 08:21 PM

If I didn't go, I'd never hear the end of it and I would have been guilted about it.

There was a LOT of griping -headdesk-

***Earniel*** · 12-16-2016, 09:18 AM

Acalewia,

.

Family can be tricksy, I'm always glad I have a small family on that account but even that isn't without its drama.

'The most wonderful time of the year...' *snerk* Suuuuuure.

I think my sis is desperatedly waiting until the kids are a little bigger so she can reasonably be out of the country during the holidays and avoid having to spend so many holidays at her MIL's. Her mother-in-law gets to decide the holiday agenda of both families (even though she is retired and therefore should have the easiest schedule to adapt) because there will be drama is her wishes aren't met.

Therefor it will be a quiet New Year at our place this year. We'll get sis and the family over on Christmas and the rest of the holidays will just be the three of us since my grandmother can't make the trip anymore.

Acalewia · 12-16-2016, 09:28 PM

Still have to do the MIL's on Christmas. Which isn't going to be fun. Especially since every time I go over there, I end up having an asthma attack from the chain smoking. But I finally got my official diagnosis and an inhaler so maybe the a**holes will finally believe that I have asthma, despite the attacks I've had over there.

And people wonder why I no longer like Christmas

**Mari** · 12-17-2016, 09:45 AM

Awww, I'm sorry Acally. *hug* Can I get you a nice and strong cuppa? You certainly deserve it.

Acalewia · 12-17-2016, 04:07 PM

Thank you, Meri -hugs-

I'm just 1000% done with everyone in my blood family

***Earniel*** · 12-23-2016, 06:35 AM

What I never did get is people not even trying to make things easier for the people or family they invite, like laying off the chain smoking when there are guests in the house that don't like it.

Maybe that's just how I was raised... I have had people express surprise at the things we do for making my sis and her family at home when they come over, so yeah, might be me but still. If you invite people, family or otherwise, you're supposed to do a minimum to make them comfortable.

Still, visiting family may beat having to host them, then you can at least decide when you've had enough and skedaddle. Getting no longer wanted guests out of your home is a tad more difficult.

But maybe get some comfort out of the fact that you're not alone having a hard time with family and holidays.

Acalewia · 12-23-2016, 08:21 PM

I don't get it either. But at least one uncle, once he realized I had asthma after I had an attack, goes outside to smoke. After he apologized a hundred tines because he really didn't know I had asthma. But it's like his other uncle and his aunt don't believe me.

I'm the same way, Earniel. I make everyone comfortable in my house when they visit, with the exception of smoking and vaping. They still need to go outside for that. I'm sensitive to vapors as well. Which I recently learned...

But I guess every time a family gets together, there's going to be drama llamas

***Valandil*** · 12-25-2016, 10:26 AM

Merry Christmas, everyone!

Acalewia · 12-26-2016, 12:09 AM

Merry Christmas

**Mari** · 12-27-2016, 01:00 PM

We survived Christmas! No drama, only a little stress and lots of fun.

Acalewia · 12-27-2016, 08:38 PM

Yay! My in-laws actually took their cigarettes outside

**Mari** · 12-28-2016, 04:04 AM

Good news!

Acalewia · 12-28-2016, 09:28 PM

What is everyone doing for New Year's?

**Mari** · 12-29-2016, 08:14 AM

My fiancé and I are going to stay home, enjoy the fireworks and then go to bed. I really don't like New Year's parties and stuff and fortunately neither does he. You?

Acalewia · 12-29-2016, 02:24 PM

I'm going to do a Skype "party" with my Dragon Age/Elder Scrolls group. I don't go out and go to parties myself. I probably won't even make it to midnight lol

***Varnafindë*** · 12-29-2016, 02:29 PM

Stay home, enjoy the fireworks and then go to bed are my plans for New Year as well.
Probably listen to some more Christmas carols, too - radio, CDs, YouTube ...

Acalewia · 12-29-2016, 02:32 PM

I never really got the whole party thing on new year's

***Varnafindë*** · 12-29-2016, 02:36 PM

For parties, I prefer small, quiet ones with close friends - nothing noisy or rowdy.

Acalewia · 12-29-2016, 03:24 PM

I rarely stay up until midnight. I'm usually on kennel duty for New Year's lol

Butterbeer · 12-30-2016, 10:16 AM

Belated Merry Christmas wishes and best thoughts to all for 2017.

Nice to see a few posts in the cafe - i hardly pop in as i prefer the bar, and dislike the costs cafe's charge for coffee (generally) ... but the wood fire is nice this time of year and a warm drink welcome...

Christmas for me was lovely this year, a nice mix of short visits to various family, who rather wonderfully are quite spread out... meaning yes.. being able to skedaddle off

Only minor grief i got at all was not going to part of the family for new years... but i'm going to a party and had seen them all... frankly as i said in my usual polite way... "i don't give a damn".

Life is short... besides, as others have said, short and sweet works all round for family visits- no need to overdo it

Wishing you all a Happy new years and health and happiness in 2017

Best, BB xx

12-13-2016, 08:21 PM	#1141
Acalewia Halfelven Daughter of the Dunedain, President of Entmoot Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: In trouble. As usual. Posts: 4,674	If I didn't go, I'd never hear the end of it and I would have been guilted about it. There was a LOT of griping -headdesk- __________________ "Acaly und Hektor fur Presidants fur EntMut fur life!"~ inked Don't meddle in the affairs of Dragons, for you are crunchy and taste good with ketchup. "Don't be such a sour wolf" Stiles ~ Heart Monitor http://www.wattpad.com/user/IceQueenofMitera

12-16-2016, 09:28 PM	#1143
Acalewia Halfelven Daughter of the Dunedain, President of Entmoot Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: In trouble. As usual. Posts: 4,674	Still have to do the MIL's on Christmas. Which isn't going to be fun. Especially since every time I go over there, I end up having an asthma attack from the chain smoking. But I finally got my official diagnosis and an inhaler so maybe the a**holes will finally believe that I have asthma, despite the attacks I've had over there. And people wonder why I no longer like Christmas __________________ "Acaly und Hektor fur Presidants fur EntMut fur life!"~ inked Don't meddle in the affairs of Dragons, for you are crunchy and taste good with ketchup. "Don't be such a sour wolf" Stiles ~ Heart Monitor http://www.wattpad.com/user/IceQueenofMitera

12-17-2016, 09:45 AM	#1144
Mari Elf Lady Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: In the lands where mountains are but a fairytale Posts: 8,588	Awww, I'm sorry Acally. hug Can I get you a nice and strong cuppa? You certainly deserve it. __________________ Love always, deeply and true ★ Friends are those rare people who ask how we are and then wait to hear the answer. ★ Friendship is sharing openly, laughing often, trusting always, caring deeply. ...The Earth laughs in flowers ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson, "Hamatreya"...

12-17-2016, 04:07 PM	#1145
Acalewia Halfelven Daughter of the Dunedain, President of Entmoot Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: In trouble. As usual. Posts: 4,674	Thank you, Meri -hugs- I'm just 1000% done with everyone in my blood family __________________ "Acaly und Hektor fur Presidants fur EntMut fur life!"~ inked Don't meddle in the affairs of Dragons, for you are crunchy and taste good with ketchup. "Don't be such a sour wolf" Stiles ~ Heart Monitor http://www.wattpad.com/user/IceQueenofMitera

12-23-2016, 08:21 PM	#1147
Acalewia Halfelven Daughter of the Dunedain, President of Entmoot Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: In trouble. As usual. Posts: 4,674	I don't get it either. But at least one uncle, once he realized I had asthma after I had an attack, goes outside to smoke. After he apologized a hundred tines because he really didn't know I had asthma. But it's like his other uncle and his aunt don't believe me. I'm the same way, Earniel. I make everyone comfortable in my house when they visit, with the exception of smoking and vaping. They still need to go outside for that. I'm sensitive to vapors as well. Which I recently learned... But I guess every time a family gets together, there's going to be drama llamas __________________ "Acaly und Hektor fur Presidants fur EntMut fur life!"~ inked Don't meddle in the affairs of Dragons, for you are crunchy and taste good with ketchup. "Don't be such a sour wolf" Stiles ~ Heart Monitor http://www.wattpad.com/user/IceQueenofMitera

12-16-2016, 09:18 AM	#1142
*Earniel* The Chocoholic Sea Elf Administrator Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: N?n in Eilph (Belgium) Posts: 14,363	Acalewia, . Family can be tricksy, I'm always glad I have a small family on that account but even that isn't without its drama. 'The most wonderful time of the year...' snerk Suuuuuure. I think my sis is desperatedly waiting until the kids are a little bigger so she can reasonably be out of the country during the holidays and avoid having to spend so many holidays at her MIL's. Her mother-in-law gets to decide the holiday agenda of both families (even though she is retired and therefore should have the easiest schedule to adapt) because there will be drama is her wishes aren't met. Therefor it will be a quiet New Year at our place this year. We'll get sis and the family over on Christmas and the rest of the holidays will just be the three of us since my grandmother can't make the trip anymore.

12-23-2016, 06:35 AM	#1146
*Earniel* The Chocoholic Sea Elf Administrator Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: N?n in Eilph (Belgium) Posts: 14,363	What I never did get is people not even trying to make things easier for the people or family they invite, like laying off the chain smoking when there are guests in the house that don't like it. Maybe that's just how I was raised... I have had people express surprise at the things we do for making my sis and her family at home when they come over, so yeah, might be me but still. If you invite people, family or otherwise, you're supposed to do a minimum to make them comfortable. Still, visiting family may beat having to host them, then you can at least decide when you've had enough and skedaddle. Getting no longer wanted guests out of your home is a tad more difficult. But maybe get some comfort out of the fact that you're not alone having a hard time with family and holidays.

12-25-2016, 10:26 AM	#1148
*Valandil* High King at Annuminas Administrator Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Wyoming - USA Posts: 10,752	Merry Christmas, everyone! __________________ My Fanfic: Letters of Firiel Tales of Nolduryon Visitors Come to Court Ñ á ë ?* ó ú é ä ï ö Ö ñ É Þ ð ß ® ™ [Xurl=Xhttp://entmoot.tolkientrail.com/showthread.php?s=&postid=ABCXYZ#postABCXYZ]text[/Xurl] Splitting Threads is SUCH Hard Work!!

12-26-2016, 12:09 AM	#1149
Acalewia Halfelven Daughter of the Dunedain, President of Entmoot Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: In trouble. As usual. Posts: 4,674	Merry Christmas __________________ "Acaly und Hektor fur Presidants fur EntMut fur life!"~ inked Don't meddle in the affairs of Dragons, for you are crunchy and taste good with ketchup. "Don't be such a sour wolf" Stiles ~ Heart Monitor http://www.wattpad.com/user/IceQueenofMitera

12-27-2016, 01:00 PM	#1150
Mari Elf Lady Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: In the lands where mountains are but a fairytale Posts: 8,588	We survived Christmas! No drama, only a little stress and lots of fun. __________________ Love always, deeply and true ★ Friends are those rare people who ask how we are and then wait to hear the answer. ★ Friendship is sharing openly, laughing often, trusting always, caring deeply. ...The Earth laughs in flowers ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson, "Hamatreya"...

12-27-2016, 08:38 PM	#1151
Acalewia Halfelven Daughter of the Dunedain, President of Entmoot Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: In trouble. As usual. Posts: 4,674	Yay! My in-laws actually took their cigarettes outside __________________ "Acaly und Hektor fur Presidants fur EntMut fur life!"~ inked Don't meddle in the affairs of Dragons, for you are crunchy and taste good with ketchup. "Don't be such a sour wolf" Stiles ~ Heart Monitor http://www.wattpad.com/user/IceQueenofMitera

12-28-2016, 04:04 AM	#1152
Mari Elf Lady Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: In the lands where mountains are but a fairytale Posts: 8,588	Good news! __________________ Love always, deeply and true ★ Friends are those rare people who ask how we are and then wait to hear the answer. ★ Friendship is sharing openly, laughing often, trusting always, caring deeply. ...The Earth laughs in flowers ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson, "Hamatreya"...

12-28-2016, 09:28 PM	#1153
Acalewia Halfelven Daughter of the Dunedain, President of Entmoot Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: In trouble. As usual. Posts: 4,674	What is everyone doing for New Year's? __________________ "Acaly und Hektor fur Presidants fur EntMut fur life!"~ inked Don't meddle in the affairs of Dragons, for you are crunchy and taste good with ketchup. "Don't be such a sour wolf" Stiles ~ Heart Monitor http://www.wattpad.com/user/IceQueenofMitera

12-29-2016, 08:14 AM	#1154
Mari Elf Lady Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: In the lands where mountains are but a fairytale Posts: 8,588	My fiancé and I are going to stay home, enjoy the fireworks and then go to bed. I really don't like New Year's parties and stuff and fortunately neither does he. You? __________________ Love always, deeply and true ★ Friends are those rare people who ask how we are and then wait to hear the answer. ★ Friendship is sharing openly, laughing often, trusting always, caring deeply. ...The Earth laughs in flowers ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson, "Hamatreya"...

12-29-2016, 02:24 PM	#1155
Acalewia Halfelven Daughter of the Dunedain, President of Entmoot Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: In trouble. As usual. Posts: 4,674	I'm going to do a Skype "party" with my Dragon Age/Elder Scrolls group. I don't go out and go to parties myself. I probably won't even make it to midnight lol __________________ "Acaly und Hektor fur Presidants fur EntMut fur life!"~ inked Don't meddle in the affairs of Dragons, for you are crunchy and taste good with ketchup. "Don't be such a sour wolf" Stiles ~ Heart Monitor http://www.wattpad.com/user/IceQueenofMitera

12-29-2016, 02:29 PM	#1156
*Varnafindë* Princess of the Noldor (and Administrative Empress of the Lone Islands) Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Imladris (and sometimes Norway) Posts: 3,304	Stay home, enjoy the fireworks and then go to bed are my plans for New Year as well. Probably listen to some more Christmas carols, too - radio, CDs, YouTube ... __________________ Signature picture art - Bard the Bowman - by vigshane Avatar art - Footsteps of Spring (a young Luthien) - by Henning Janssen

12-29-2016, 02:32 PM	#1157
Acalewia Halfelven Daughter of the Dunedain, President of Entmoot Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: In trouble. As usual. Posts: 4,674	I never really got the whole party thing on new year's __________________ "Acaly und Hektor fur Presidants fur EntMut fur life!"~ inked Don't meddle in the affairs of Dragons, for you are crunchy and taste good with ketchup. "Don't be such a sour wolf" Stiles ~ Heart Monitor http://www.wattpad.com/user/IceQueenofMitera

12-29-2016, 02:36 PM	#1158
*Varnafindë* Princess of the Noldor (and Administrative Empress of the Lone Islands) Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Imladris (and sometimes Norway) Posts: 3,304	For parties, I prefer small, quiet ones with close friends - nothing noisy or rowdy. __________________ Signature picture art - Bard the Bowman - by vigshane Avatar art - Footsteps of Spring (a young Luthien) - by Henning Janssen

12-29-2016, 03:24 PM	#1159
Acalewia Halfelven Daughter of the Dunedain, President of Entmoot Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: In trouble. As usual. Posts: 4,674	I rarely stay up until midnight. I'm usually on kennel duty for New Year's lol __________________ "Acaly und Hektor fur Presidants fur EntMut fur life!"~ inked Don't meddle in the affairs of Dragons, for you are crunchy and taste good with ketchup. "Don't be such a sour wolf" Stiles ~ Heart Monitor http://www.wattpad.com/user/IceQueenofMitera

12-30-2016, 10:16 AM	#1160
Butterbeer Elf Lord Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: here and there Posts: 3,514	Belated Merry Christmas wishes and best thoughts to all for 2017. Nice to see a few posts in the cafe - i hardly pop in as i prefer the bar, and dislike the costs cafe's charge for coffee (generally) ... but the wood fire is nice this time of year and a warm drink welcome... Christmas for me was lovely this year, a nice mix of short visits to various family, who rather wonderfully are quite spread out... meaning yes.. being able to skedaddle off Only minor grief i got at all was not going to part of the family for new years... but i'm going to a party and had seen them all... frankly as i said in my usual polite way... "i don't give a damn". Life is short... besides, as others have said, short and sweet works all round for family visits- no need to overdo it Wishing you all a Happy new years and health and happiness in 2017 Best, BB xx

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