"Temporary" Venting Thread III - Page 5

***Tessar*** · 09-17-2007, 11:41 PM

I think I'm going to come out to my oldest sister tomorrow, and maybe my second oldest as well... if I don't chicken out.

The parents I'm not ready for, but I talked to my friend for a while about it today... and I think the time is probably right to get some gears set in motion.

I'm scared, but I've felt for a really long time like it was something I wanted to do... wanted, but couldn't. I hate lying, and this has been one of the biggest... things... I've had to hide since I was 11 or 12.

Ergh. wish me luck.

hectorberlioz · 09-17-2007, 11:52 PM

Wow Tessar...I assumed they already knew. Good luck. God Bless.

***Tessar*** · 09-18-2007, 12:15 AM

Thanks, Hector

.

No, they don't know. I've hinted before, and God knows my shopping fetish, ability to find my mother and sister amazing clothes, and excited hand-flailing should've been a tip off.... but no.

They're going to make me do this the difficult way

.

I picked tomorrow in part because my sister's boyfriend is going to be over, and I'd kind of like to come out to my second-oldest while he's around... because his sister is a lesbian, and... I don't want my sister to feel alone, or betrayed when I tell her. I've been really close to her for the last... two years?

If she's... I don't know... disgusted, or shocked, or hates me when I tell her, I don't want her to have to face that alone. If she needs comforting, but doesn't want to be around me, I want someone there she -can- be close to.

I don't think she will be... but I wont take any risk of hurting her more than I 'have' to. I love her to bits.

***Rían*** · 09-18-2007, 12:29 AM

I hope everything goes well for you all, Tessar!

*Moothug*

BeardofPants · 09-18-2007, 01:10 AM

Good luck Tessar - I really can't imagine anything harder than having to come out to your family. I'm sure it will be a positive experience. Or you could just not, and tell her to log in to entmoot again?

Acalewia · 09-18-2007, 12:27 PM

I wish you loads of luck, Tessar. *Moothug*

***Jonathan*** · 09-19-2007, 01:14 AM

Tessar, I'm on pins and needles here. Have you told them yet? If so, how did it go?

***Tessar*** · 09-19-2007, 01:36 AM

Thank you, everyone. It went really well.

My oldest sister just laughed and said she's known it for about four years. My second oldest and her boyfriend were fine with it, although I think they were very surprised when I said that I wasn't sure how I felt about the religious issue... I think they were both expecting me to just say, "oh, yes, I'll still be 100% Catholic."

My oldest sister feels more the way I do about the religious side of it, and she said she would only be angry if I found a boyfriend and she didn't get to meet him

.

So, the one sister said she knew for sure, although the other one said she hadn't really been sure... so my parents must know, at least subconsciously. Definitely not coming out to them for a while, though, and my sisters both encouraged me to -not- come out to the parents till I've moved out in three or four years.

So... ANYWAYS.

I'm gonna go collapse into a puddle, now, and have a very small melt down of relief and happiness.

***Jonathan*** · 09-19-2007, 08:12 AM

Glad to hear that

The Gaffer · 09-19-2007, 10:20 AM

Well done. A big hurdle; glad you got support where you needed it. Onwards and upwards!

**Mari** · 09-19-2007, 11:51 AM

Congrats! Most be a huge relief to have that out of the way.

I remember when my best friend told me she was lesbian... that was quite a shock. She didn't bring it very well either. But in the end she didn't change, nor did I, so we're still best friends.
Actually it's quite fun to look a movies when she is criticizing the girls, my other friend is criticizing the guys and I am just humoring them both.

Completely on a different note: perhaps we should start an awards thread for different categories, like funniest mooter, happiest mooter, most knowledgeable mooter, whatever and vote once every year or so. I know there are the elections, but these awards could be in reach also for the non-politically engaged or otherwise pretty much normal members.
How about it? Aye or Nay?

sisterandcousinandaunt · 09-19-2007, 12:55 PM

Congratulations, Tessar. Your pink triangle is in the mail.

Maia, no competition, if you please. If I don't win "funnest mooter", I'll surely cry.

How about a "say something nice about another mooter" thread, instead?

Acalewia · 09-19-2007, 03:24 PM

I'm glad it went well, Tessar. You know some of my best friends are gay. It doesn't change who you are. You're still the same Tessar. *Moothug*

hectorberlioz · 09-19-2007, 03:52 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by The Gaffer

Onwards and upwards!

There's a really great Edwin Franko Goldman march called that

Tessar, glad it went well! Now you can relax

Gwaimir Windgem · 09-20-2007, 08:03 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Eärniel

And as for my highschool and college years: Je ne regrette pretty much rien.

Gwaimir Windgem · 09-20-2007, 08:07 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Tessar

Thank you, everyone. It went really well.

My oldest sister just laughed and said she's known it for about four years. My second oldest and her boyfriend were fine with it, although I think they were very surprised when I said that I wasn't sure how I felt about the religious issue... I think they were both expecting me to just say, "oh, yes, I'll still be 100% Catholic."

My oldest sister feels more the way I do about the religious side of it, and she said she would only be angry if I found a boyfriend and she didn't get to meet him

.

So, the one sister said she knew for sure, although the other one said she hadn't really been sure... so my parents must know, at least subconsciously. Definitely not coming out to them for a while, though, and my sisters both encouraged me to -not- come out to the parents till I've moved out in three or four years.

So... ANYWAYS.

I'm gonna go collapse into a puddle, now, and have a very small melt down of relief and happiness.

I'm very glad for that, Tessar. You can usually trust family enough that things like this will end up all right.

Bless you.

hectorberlioz · 09-21-2007, 01:28 PM

CLEAN YOUR PM BOX!!!!!!!!!

Rosie Gamgee · 09-21-2007, 01:56 PM

Sorry, Dear!!!

hectorberlioz · 09-21-2007, 02:00 PM

Finally

Rosie Gamgee · 09-21-2007, 02:05 PM

I don't see any replies trickling back yet... where was the fire?

09-17-2007, 11:52 PM	#82
hectorberlioz Master of Orchestration President Emeritus of Entmoot 2004-2008 Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Lost in the Opera House Posts: 9,328	Wow Tessar...I assumed they already knew. Good luck. God Bless. __________________ ACALEWIA- President of Entmoot hectorberlioz- Vice President of Entmoot Acaly und Hektor fur Presidants fur EntMut fur life! Join the discussion at Entmoot Election 2010. "Stupidissimo!"~Toscanini The Da CINDY Code The Epic Poem Of The Balrog of Entmoot: Here ~NEW! ~ Thinking of summer vacation? AboutNewJersey.com - NJ Travel & Tourism Guide

09-18-2007, 12:29 AM	#84
*Rían* Half-Elven Princess of Rabbit Trails and Harp-Wielding Administrator (beware the Rubber Chicken of Doom!) Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: Not where I want to be ... Posts: 15,254	I hope everything goes well for you all, Tessar! Moothug __________________ . I should be doing the laundry, but this is MUCH more fun! Ñá ë?* óú éä ïöü Öñ É Þ ð ß ® ç å ™ æ ♪ ?* "How lovely are Thy dwelling places, O Lord of hosts! ... For a day in Thy courts is better than a thousand outside." (from Psalm 84) * * * God rocks! Entmoot : Veni, vidi, velcro - I came, I saw, I got hooked! Ego numquam pronunciare mendacium, sed ego sum homo indomitus! Run the earth and watch the sky ... Auta i lómë! Aurë entuluva!

09-18-2007, 01:10 AM	#85
BeardofPants the Shrike Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: San Francisco, CA <3 Posts: 10,647	Good luck Tessar - I really can't imagine anything harder than having to come out to your family. I'm sure it will be a positive experience. Or you could just not, and tell her to log in to entmoot again? __________________ "Binary solo! 0000001! 00000011! 0000001! 00000011!" ~ The Humans are Dead, Flight of the Conchords

09-18-2007, 12:27 PM	#86
Acalewia Halfelven Daughter of the Dunedain, President of Entmoot Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: In trouble. As usual. Posts: 4,674	I wish you loads of luck, Tessar. Moothug __________________ "Acaly und Hektor fur Presidants fur EntMut fur life!"~ inked Don't meddle in the affairs of Dragons, for you are crunchy and taste good with ketchup. "Don't be such a sour wolf" Stiles ~ Heart Monitor http://www.wattpad.com/user/IceQueenofMitera

09-19-2007, 01:14 AM	#87
*Jonathan* Entmoot Attorney-General, Equilibrating the Scales of Justice, Administrator ♎ Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: Stockholm, Sweden Posts: 3,891	Tessar, I'm on pins and needles here. Have you told them yet? If so, how did it go? __________________ An unwritten post is a delightful universe of infinite possibilities. Set down one word, however, and it immediately becomes earthbound. Set down one sentence and it’s halfway to being just like every other bloody entry that’s ever been written. ☻

09-17-2007, 11:41 PM	#81
*Tessar* Master and Wielder of the Cardboard Harp of Gondor Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: IM IN UR POSTZ, EDITIN' UR WURDZ Posts: 6,433	I think I'm going to come out to my oldest sister tomorrow, and maybe my second oldest as well... if I don't chicken out. The parents I'm not ready for, but I talked to my friend for a while about it today... and I think the time is probably right to get some gears set in motion. I'm scared, but I've felt for a really long time like it was something I wanted to do... wanted, but couldn't. I hate lying, and this has been one of the biggest... things... I've had to hide since I was 11 or 12. Ergh. wish me luck.

09-18-2007, 12:15 AM	#83
*Tessar* Master and Wielder of the Cardboard Harp of Gondor Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: IM IN UR POSTZ, EDITIN' UR WURDZ Posts: 6,433	Thanks, Hector . No, they don't know. I've hinted before, and God knows my shopping fetish, ability to find my mother and sister amazing clothes, and excited hand-flailing should've been a tip off.... but no. They're going to make me do this the difficult way . I picked tomorrow in part because my sister's boyfriend is going to be over, and I'd kind of like to come out to my second-oldest while he's around... because his sister is a lesbian, and... I don't want my sister to feel alone, or betrayed when I tell her. I've been really close to her for the last... two years? If she's... I don't know... disgusted, or shocked, or hates me when I tell her, I don't want her to have to face that alone. If she needs comforting, but doesn't want to be around me, I want someone there she -can- be close to. I don't think she will be... but I wont take any risk of hurting her more than I 'have' to. I love her to bits.

09-19-2007, 01:36 AM	#88
*Tessar* Master and Wielder of the Cardboard Harp of Gondor Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: IM IN UR POSTZ, EDITIN' UR WURDZ Posts: 6,433	Thank you, everyone. It went really well. My oldest sister just laughed and said she's known it for about four years. My second oldest and her boyfriend were fine with it, although I think they were very surprised when I said that I wasn't sure how I felt about the religious issue... I think they were both expecting me to just say, "oh, yes, I'll still be 100% Catholic." My oldest sister feels more the way I do about the religious side of it, and she said she would only be angry if I found a boyfriend and she didn't get to meet him . So, the one sister said she knew for sure, although the other one said she hadn't really been sure... so my parents must know, at least subconsciously. Definitely not coming out to them for a while, though, and my sisters both encouraged me to -not- come out to the parents till I've moved out in three or four years. So... ANYWAYS. I'm gonna go collapse into a puddle, now, and have a very small melt down of relief and happiness.

09-19-2007, 08:12 AM	#89
*Jonathan* Entmoot Attorney-General, Equilibrating the Scales of Justice, Administrator ♎ Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: Stockholm, Sweden Posts: 3,891	Glad to hear that __________________ An unwritten post is a delightful universe of infinite possibilities. Set down one word, however, and it immediately becomes earthbound. Set down one sentence and it’s halfway to being just like every other bloody entry that’s ever been written. ☻

09-19-2007, 10:20 AM	#90
The Gaffer Elf Lord Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: In me taters Posts: 3,288	Well done. A big hurdle; glad you got support where you needed it. Onwards and upwards!

09-19-2007, 11:51 AM	#91
Mari Elf Lady Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: In the lands where mountains are but a fairytale Posts: 8,588	Congrats! Most be a huge relief to have that out of the way. I remember when my best friend told me she was lesbian... that was quite a shock. She didn't bring it very well either. But in the end she didn't change, nor did I, so we're still best friends. Actually it's quite fun to look a movies when she is criticizing the girls, my other friend is criticizing the guys and I am just humoring them both. Completely on a different note: perhaps we should start an awards thread for different categories, like funniest mooter, happiest mooter, most knowledgeable mooter, whatever and vote once every year or so. I know there are the elections, but these awards could be in reach also for the non-politically engaged or otherwise pretty much normal members. How about it? Aye or Nay? __________________ Love always, deeply and true ★ Friends are those rare people who ask how we are and then wait to hear the answer. ★ Friendship is sharing openly, laughing often, trusting always, caring deeply. ...The Earth laughs in flowers ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson, "Hamatreya"...

09-19-2007, 12:55 PM	#92
sisterandcousinandaunt Elf Lord Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 4,535	Congratulations, Tessar. Your pink triangle is in the mail. Maia, no competition, if you please. If I don't win "funnest mooter", I'll surely cry. How about a "say something nice about another mooter" thread, instead? __________________ That would be the swirling vortex to another world. Cool. I want one. TMNT No, I'm not emo. I just have a really poor sense of direction. (Thanks to katya for this quote) This is the best news story EVER! http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/26087293/ “Often my haste is a mistake, but I live with the consequences without complaint.”...John McCain "I shall go back. And I shall find that therapist. And I shall whack her upside her head with my blanket full of rocks." ...Louisa May

09-19-2007, 03:24 PM	#93
Acalewia Halfelven Daughter of the Dunedain, President of Entmoot Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: In trouble. As usual. Posts: 4,674	I'm glad it went well, Tessar. You know some of my best friends are gay. It doesn't change who you are. You're still the same Tessar. Moothug __________________ "Acaly und Hektor fur Presidants fur EntMut fur life!"~ inked Don't meddle in the affairs of Dragons, for you are crunchy and taste good with ketchup. "Don't be such a sour wolf" Stiles ~ Heart Monitor http://www.wattpad.com/user/IceQueenofMitera

09-21-2007, 01:28 PM	#97
hectorberlioz Master of Orchestration President Emeritus of Entmoot 2004-2008 Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Lost in the Opera House Posts: 9,328	Rosie Gamgee CLEAN YOUR PM BOX!!!!!!!!! __________________ ACALEWIA- President of Entmoot hectorberlioz- Vice President of Entmoot Acaly und Hektor fur Presidants fur EntMut fur life! Join the discussion at Entmoot Election 2010. "Stupidissimo!"~Toscanini The Da CINDY Code The Epic Poem Of The Balrog of Entmoot: Here ~NEW! ~ Thinking of summer vacation? AboutNewJersey.com - NJ Travel & Tourism Guide

09-21-2007, 01:56 PM	#98
Rosie Gamgee The Lovely Hobbit-Lass Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Bounded in a nut-shell Posts: 1,593	hectorberlioz Sorry, Dear!!! __________________ It's New Years Day, just like the day before; Same old skies of grey, same empty bottles on the floor. Another year's gone by, and I was thinking once again, How can I take this losing hand and somehow win? Just give me One Good Year To get my feet back on the ground. I've been chasing grace; Grace ain't so easily found One bad hand can devil a man, chase him and carry him down. I've got to get out of here, just give me One Good Year!

09-21-2007, 02:00 PM	#99
hectorberlioz Master of Orchestration President Emeritus of Entmoot 2004-2008 Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Lost in the Opera House Posts: 9,328	Finally __________________ ACALEWIA- President of Entmoot hectorberlioz- Vice President of Entmoot Acaly und Hektor fur Presidants fur EntMut fur life! Join the discussion at Entmoot Election 2010. "Stupidissimo!"~Toscanini The Da CINDY Code The Epic Poem Of The Balrog of Entmoot: Here ~NEW! ~ Thinking of summer vacation? AboutNewJersey.com - NJ Travel & Tourism Guide

09-21-2007, 02:05 PM	#100
Rosie Gamgee The Lovely Hobbit-Lass Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Bounded in a nut-shell Posts: 1,593	I don't see any replies trickling back yet... where was the fire? __________________ It's New Years Day, just like the day before; Same old skies of grey, same empty bottles on the floor. Another year's gone by, and I was thinking once again, How can I take this losing hand and somehow win? Just give me One Good Year To get my feet back on the ground. I've been chasing grace; Grace ain't so easily found One bad hand can devil a man, chase him and carry him down. I've got to get out of here, just give me One Good Year!